Stop calling yourself good
Talking about your goodness does nothing for you
You may have arguments for why you like to call yourself good. You’re good because you’re better than those. It’s still a bad move. Because it doesn’t mean anything at all. And worse than that, saying that you’re good people, means that you have no other card in your hands. Is that your best move?
I haven’t met a man who is good with women, who says that he is good with women. Doers don’t talk, and talkers don’t do. If he is good enough with women, he isn’t talking with men who can’t get women. If he has a sister who isn’t indifferent, afraid, or disgusted with her brother, then she will make sure that her brother will be good. He will be good in every sense of the meaning. He will believe very ardently in the right opinions and he will be good with manual things such as opening jars and lifting furniture which are heavier than she can lift. Because why else do you have a guy around? If she still wants to have her brother in her life, he will be talked with, and she will do her best to correct his indifference, his incompetence, and his irreverence towards her.
“Why don’t you care about me? Don’t you want to help me with this? And how can you even say such things?! I’m your sister! You don’t think you need to be able to get all of this flawlessly if you’re to get a girlfriend, do you? Girls talk, you know.”
The boys with sisters or mothers will be relentless in giving this sort of remedial masculinity. Men will be spoken with until they get it. When she visits a doctor, if it’s a he, then he will get it. He will get everything. He will know what he needs to know. He will know how he will help her with the issue she might not even get herself. And if there’s a question of why to answer, then he will be able to do that. Else the doctor isn’t a doctor. And she doesn’t pretend to care if it’s hard to be a man or a doctor. If he had a hard time as a boy at home growing up. How his life was after he hit puberty and went to school. If it was difficult to get the grades to be accepted into a university to study medicine. She only has an issue, she wants it taken care of whatever it is, and he needs to be a man. One of the better men, a doctor. It’s nothing personal. Not even a little. Because this girl might remind him of teenage girls he met when he went to school. And he felt this or that about those sort of girls. It doesn’t matter. Because if he is a man, a good man, then he gets what’s expected of him for the duration of his career. And if he wants to be called a good man outside of his work, by sisters or girlfriends or wives, and the men who choose to invite him to things, the same thing is for life. A man is a trade. It’s an earned title.
You have to know what you need to know. And how you know it and why. I’m not a doctor, nor am I studying to be one, so I don’t need to get what he needs to get. But if I’m about to become an electrician, a butcher, an engineer, a salesman, or a priest, then I need to know what they know. Or else they will not say I’m one of them. They’re all professionals in their ways and the last case, a priest is a father in a way. And if you’re a heterosexual guy, you don’t become a boyfriend or a husband or a father, before you’re chosen. Because if you’ve talked or listened enough to what women say, you don’t become a boyfriend if you don’t get it. If you don’t get what boyfriends get, good luck with finding a girlfriend. There are no schools for those guys who don’t get it. So don’t look for one, as a man wouldn’t need one.
’It can’t be found by seeking, but only seekers will find it.’
“When the student is ready the teacher will appear. When the student is truly ready, the teacher will disappear.”
”The tribe will give you your name.”
I’m not going to claim I get what boyfriends get, because then I’d be making a fool of myself in front of the men. The men who know, they know. Claim to be good, while you’re failing to attract women, and you’re the reason why women are frustrated. Guys are everywhere, but men are in high demand. This is why decent psychologists talk about the wedding ring effect. A man who gets it is confirmed and already taken. The unproven single guy is questioned. If you’re a single guy, and no woman speaks of you, then what are you? Why isn’t any girl talking with him? Doesn’t he care about women’s issues? Is he weak, stupid, or both? Or he just doesn’t give a shit?
I heard a comparison between a girl's life in school and a guy's prison scenario. You're locked in school for X hours a day. All of the guys are bigger than her. The guys are endlessly joking irreverently. About everything, including what she fears the most. Asking them to stop with the insensitive jokes is ineffective, even if she tries. It's safe and wise to assume that one of the ten guys is the struggle-hugging enthusiast. But she doesn't want to know which one it is. Because if you learn who it is, it is far too late for her. And she has to read 3 to 10 chess moves before the terrible event happens because if she steps too close to that, it's too late. But the guys do not move as predictable as the pieces on the chess board. So you have to learn everything about both boys and girls yesterday. Or else you're a piece of dead meat.
"How was your day at school today, dear? Was it fun?"
Oh. Oh! Now I get it. That, that might explain her carefulness. As a guy, I always had the option of becoming so angry that I lost my ability to grasp words and to fight out of anything that might look like danger.
Your writing needs work, Jasede.
"I haven’t met a man who is good with women, who says that he is good with women."
Uhu. Which is what Vox Day does. He even said this to Molyneux' face ("we both would not have trouble dating if he had to now"), to which Molyneux replied that he has been out of the "dating game" for so long that he does not know.
What you need to understand is that looks are subjective, that even the Bible teaches that it there are more important criteriia (Proverbs 31:28-31).
As Nils M Holm writes in "Bridging the Gap" (on http://t3x.org):
"Having a job that pays the bills helps to find your way in this world, and having a jobs that allows for some extras, like a new car, vacations in foreign countries, or maybe an own appartment, is seen as the ultimate goal by many. However, this can be a stale experience when you are always on your own. You may find a partner, but never feel any connection to them, because they do not share your interests, your values, your empathy, your sensitivity, etc. Many relationships of high-IQ people are uneasy compromises at best. The alienation they first felt at home and then at school and in later life extends also to their closest connections."
Even Chris Langan, who is way smarter than Vox Day by having an IQ in the range of 195-210, wrote:
"Right. As far as Germany is concerned, everyone is forever knocking the so-called “nazi stud farms” of the 1930’s and 40’s. But before one can even dream of doing this in any meaningful way, one must consider the alternatives available in the present reproductively degenerate environment … and we’re not just talking about genocidally replacing indigenous Europeans with maladaptive foreigners. (As I say, the situation here is nearly as bad. As one of the premier bouncers in New York, if not the best-known of all, I was nothing if not accessible to women. That I didn’t get any reproductive play on Eastern LI, where rich and pampered women abound, and that I simultaneously watched these decadent party girls having out-of-wedlock children by a succession of dunces, creeps, and minority players, is really quite informative when you come right down to it.) Truly, the Caucasian genome is in freefall."